That's exactly why the humorless thing bothers me, too. I also tend to get called censorious, which ... kind of seems to circle back to the same thing. I'm not necessarily trying to shut anyone up, I'm just generally trying to explain why something bothers me; if the default setting is that I have to shut up and take it, that's *not* censorious? Argh.

And, of course you're welcome to a copy of the paper! Now all I have to do is finish the bloody thing .... :)